In Parallel

This blurry image above is a cruise ship on the Atlantic Ocean at night time. It’s a laughably terrible photo. But it has a nice thought attached.

I recently took a cruise myself, and when I snapped this image, I was on the top deck of my own ship. We were sailing overnight to our next port of entry, and as I looked toward the expanse of the ocean, not too far from us, there was another cruise ship traveling with us in parallel. Though the photo is humorously abysmal, I could see this ship very clearly.

I stood there for a while and watched it, wondering who might be on that ship. Though I couldn’t make out individual people, I knew that thousands of people were there, an international bunch, and some were in the pool, some were in their beds, some were eating dinner, and some were at shows and activities.

Then, I thought, “Oh, and there are probably a few standing on the top of the deck, watching my ship in the distance, thinking about the very same things about us.” I enjoyed knowing this was true, even though I couldn’t see the people in my same position.

I thought about how many times a day in every day life, we think about people we love, and they think about us. We rarely know exactly when and how this happens, but it’s certainly true. There are people in parallel with our own lives — from afar, or just living their own day nearby, thinking of us fondly, enjoying us, remembering us, wondering about us, hoping for us, cheering us on, and desiring goodness for us.

Renee Roederer

Honoring Their Lives

From The New York Times daily newsletter:

Alexandria Aniyah Rubio, 10: Alexandria, who went by Lexi, played softball and basketball and wanted to be a lawyer when she grew up. Her parents saw her make the honor roll with straight A’s and receive a good-citizen award at her school on the day she was killed.

Amerie Jo Garza, 10: Amerie was “a jokester, always smiling,” her father said. She liked playing with Play-Doh and spending time with friends during recess. “She was very social,” he said. “She talked to everybody.”

Tess Marie Mata, 10: Tess liked TikTok dance videos, Ariana Grande and getting her hair curled, The Washington Post reported. And she loved José Altuve, the diminutive Houston Astros star whose position she emulated. She was saving money for a family trip to Disney World once her older sister, Faith, graduated from college next year.

Jose Flores: “My little Josesito,” his grandfather called him. He was an energetic baseball and video-game enthusiast. In a photo his grandfather keeps in his wallet, Jose has a beaming smile and wore a T-shirt reading, “Tough guys wear pink.”

Miranda Mathis, 11: Miranda “was very loving and very talkative,” the mother of a close friend told The Austin American-Statesman. Miranda would often ask the mother to do her hair like her friend’s.

Maite Rodriguez, 10: Maite dreamed of attending Texas A&M University to become a marine biologist, a cousin wrote on Facebook: “She was her mom’s best friend.”

Makenna Lee Elrod, 10: Makenna liked to sing and dance, play with fidget toys and practice softball and gymnastics, an aunt told ABC News. She also loved animals, and hiding notes for her family to find. She recently gave her friend Chloe a friendship bracelet.

Xavier Lopez, 10: An exuberant baseball and soccer player, Xavier also chatted on the phone with his girlfriend and made the honor roll. “He was funny, never serious,” his mother, Felicha Martinez, told The Washington Post. “That smile I will never forget. It would always cheer anyone up.”

Eliana Garcia, 9: The second-eldest of five girls, Ellie helped around the house, reminding her grandparents to take their pills, helping mow the lawn and babysitting her younger sisters, her grandfather told The Los Angeles Times. She loved “Encanto,” dancing for TikTok videos, cheerleading and basketball.

Layla Salazar, 10: Layla also liked dancing to TikTok videos, and she won six races at the school’s field day, her father told The Associated Press. She and her dad would sing every morning on their drive to school.

Eliahana Cruz Torres, 10: Eliahana played softball and particularly looked forward to wearing her green and gray uniform, along with eye black grease. The final game of the season was scheduled for Tuesday, and she was hoping to make the Uvalde All-Star team.

Alithia Ramirez, 10: Alithia loved to draw. She wanted to become an artist, her father told a San Antonio TV station. After a car struck and killed her best friend last year, Alithia sent his parents a drawing of him sketching her portrait in heaven and her sketching his portrait on earth.

Jackie Cazares and Annabelle Rodriguez were cousins in the same class. Jackie was the social one. “She always had to be the center of attention,” her aunt said. “She was my little diva.” Annabelle was quieter. But the girls were close — so close that Annabelle’s twin sister, who was home-schooled, “was always jealous.”

Jailah Silguero, 10: Jailah was the youngest of four children, the “baby” of the family, her father said. Her mother told Univision that Jailah liked to dance and film videos on TikTok.

Jayce Luevanos, 10: Jayce, Jailah’s cousin, would brew a pot of coffee for his grandparents every morning, his grandfather told USA Today. Friends would come over to his house, a block from the school, to play in the yard. He enjoyed making people laugh, another relative told The Daily Beast.

Uziyah Garcia, 9: Uziyah enjoyed video games and football. His grandfather told The Los Angeles Times that Uziyah “was the type of kid [who] could get interested in anything in five minutes. Just the perfect kid, as far as I’m concerned.”

Nevaeh Bravo, 10: “She’s flying with the angels now,” a cousin wrote on Twitter.

Rojelio Torres, 10, was “intelligent, hard-working and helpful,” his aunt told a San Antonio television station.

Eva Mireles, 44: “She loved those children,” a neighbor said. Mireles had worked for the school district for about 17 years. She enjoyed running and hiking. “She was just very adventurous and courageous and vivacious and could light up a room,” a relative told ABC News.

Irma Garcia, 46: Garcia spent 23 years at Robb Elementary, five of them as Mireles’s co-teacher. She liked to sing along to classic rock tunes and help her nephew, a college student, with his homework. Garcia was known as a steadfast optimist. She enjoyed barbecuing with her husband of 24 years, Joe; he died yesterday, of a heart attack.

This Week in Nature

If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you know that I sometimes like to post glimpses of nature that I find in my home state. Today, however, I’m changing it up. I recently arrived home from a week in the Bahamas. It was a gorgeous experience, and I thought I would share a bit of the journey.



This World

Image Description: An image of a rainbow. The text reads, “Choose Kindness.”

Whenever a person or community does something specularly kind or creative — the kinds of moments that end up being shared widely on social media — a mentor of mine likes to say, “I want to live in a world where (insert story) happens. Wait, I do live in a world where (insert story) happens!”

I think about a time when a whole neighborhood learned ASL for a deaf child who lived nearby.

I think about a time when a dog started running a race alongside runners and everyone cheered on this dog as he ran the whole course.

I think about a time when a massive amount of people chipped in to care for a large family that had just lost a parent quite suddenly.

Plenty of garbage happens every day. But these forms of kindness, playfulness, and generosity exist too. We do live in that world.

Renee Roederer

Mundane Creativity

Public domain: A book is open, and a pen lies in the middle within the margins.

Henri Mattisse says,

Don’t wait for inspiration. It comes while working.

Whatever you’re creating in the world, keep at it. Even if it doesn’t feel wildly creative every day, a mundane, everyday creativity continues to build, form, and transform.

Renee Roederer

Goo

Image Description: A monarch butterfly, held in a person’s hand. Public domain image.

After a caterpillar spins itself inside a silky chrysalis, it turns into goo. It liquifies inside the cocoon. Between its intricate life as a caterpillar and its intricate life as a butterfly, it is truly a gooey mess. It’s hard to believe that something so beautiful emerges, but this is indeed the messy, mystical process.

So if any part of you feels like goo right now, you might be transforming.

Renee Roederer

Together, Apart

This piece of art really grabbed me. It’s called Flock by Pamela DeTuncq. The description says, “Six teenagers are dressed in identical wool, unprocessed outfits including hoodies and pants. Although there are small differences in clothing — hats, glasses, shoes — they appear as if in uniform. Each of them holds a cell phone in hand, either to their ears or eyes as they are busy communicating with someone else.”

It’s fitting for us as adults too.

Flock by Pamela DeTuncq.

Flock is at the Dennos Museum Center in Traverse City, Michigan.