Neighborliness

One degree outside!

When I woke up yesterday, we only had one degree. One, little degree outside. So cold!

We’ve also had snow and ice. It was shockingly mild from November to mid-January (equal parts disturbing and comfy) but winter is here in earnest, at least this week.

During one of the support groups I lead, people shared these lovely stories about what it was like to have good neighbors during snowstorms. It made me grateful for my neighbors as well. One person loves to use a snow blower to clear sidewalks and driveways. (So kind!) Another likes to make us hot toddies. (I’ll take them!) We know we can count on each other.

I’ve also lived in some places where I didn’t even know neighbors’ names. This is the kind of thing that has to be cultivated, and it typically starts when one person receives from another. It makes a big difference. Plus, it’s fun to know neighbors.

We can make this effort any time.

Renee Roederer

Reminders

“Please wash your precious, capable hands.”

I recently stayed at a friend’s apartment for a few days, and in so many directions where I looked, there were sweet, little messages and reminders of what matters. I look in the mirror, and see a little sign that says, “You’re beautiful!” I turn a corner and see, “You’re terrific!” I go to wash my hands and am reminded of how precious and capable they are: “Please wash your precious, capable hands.”

There were words of poetry, quotes, and reminders to uphold and honor the lives of people who are most frequently marginalized in our country.

Reminders everywhere.

What reminders do you need? If you need to, write them down and display them. At the very least, tell yourself often. And tell yourself beautifully.

Renee Roederer

Wonders

Thanks to the Nasa Juno Probe, we have the closest images we’ve ever taken of Jupiter:

NASA image, Jupiter

Thanks to the James Webb Space Telescope, we have images like this one below. From just a tiny sliver of observed space, we can see that every one of these dots is a galaxy… each with roughly 100 billion stars, and… each star has at least one planet. How could we possibly be alone?

JWST, Galaxies

It causes us to wonder. I like what astronomer Dr. Caitlin Casey says,

“If you look back to the Big Bang, the dark ages, the cosmic dawn, the creation of stars, galaxies, planets – we are a consequence of this. We can’t see ourselves as being apart from this. We are of this. Humans, trying to understand the universe, are really the universe trying to understand itself.” — Dr. Caitlin Casey, Vox’s Unexplainable Podcast

Mental Health Monday: Lead with Gratitude

“Thank You!” written in the sand on a beach.

Intentional gratitude practices can make a huge impact on our mental and physical health. Have you ever tried something like this? Perhaps keeping a short gratitude journal, or rehearsing moments of gratitude in your own mind before going to bed? Perhaps sharing your gratitude with another person?

A study designed by Dr. Martin E.P. Seligman, psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania, invited 411 people to deliver a letter of gratitude to someone who they had never thanked for their kindness, and participants exhibited such a large increase in the study’s happiness scores that the boost of that benefit could be noticeably measured for a month.

The study didn’t measure the happiness score of the person who received the letter, but I wonder how its impacts may have lingered meaningfully as well.

If we lead with gratitude, there are benefits for ourselves and those around us.

Renee Roederer

Neato Curiosities: Learn About Biosphere II

In the 90s, there was a brilliant scientific experiment that started out so hopefully, and ended… so badly. Eight people entered a completely sealed-off-to-the-world dome to create a biosphere of their own making. They stayed inside for two years.

Would you like to learn about this endeavor, along with its successes and wild failures?

Listen to the live Stuff You Should Know podcast on Biosphere II.

Waves of desire I am shore to

Waves move near a shoreline. Public domain.

I’d like to share a gorgeous poem by John O’Donahue. I love so many lines, but my favorite is this phrase: “waves of desire I am shore to”

I place on the altar of dawn:
The quiet loyalty of breath,
The tent of thought where I shelter,
Waves of desire I am shore to
And all beauty drawn to the eye.

May my mind come alive today
To the invisible geography
That invites me to new frontiers,
To break the dead shell of yesterdays,
To risk being disturbed and changed.

May I have the courage today
To live the life that I would love,
To postpone my dream no longer
But do at last what I came here for
And waste my heart on fear no more.

~ John O’Donohue
excerpt from A Morning Offering,
To Bless The Space Between Us

Waves of desire I am shore to… What does that mean to you? And what are you receiving?

Sometimes, They’re Just Parking Lot Shots

A parking lot, surrounded by grass and trees. Public domain image.

If you’re a subscriber here, you know that I always share nature photography on Sundays. I have an even more frequent rhythm on social media. Nature photography has become one of my biggest hobbies, and I take photos and share them to social media daily. “Today in Nature,” I call it. This has become a meaningful practice in my life.

From time to time, I’ll be in a community setting somewhere, and someone will say, “How do you do this every single day? How do you have the time?” I think people imagine that I’m hitting the trails and parks every single day.

In the summer, I am a little like that, I’ll admit. But in the colder part of Fall and Winter, and sometimes in the spring and summer too, let me just share that a lot of these photos are what I’ll call, “parking lot shots.”

That’s often the case, literally. I’m at, say, Target, and I find a really beautiful, tiny piece of nature to capture. Or I’m walking from my car to the building where I work, and I notice something. Or I’ve come home, and I see something pretty in my driveway.

You don’t have to hit the trails and the parks to find beauty, and I think if we look for it intentionally, we develop an eye for it. We can find it almost anywhere.

Renee Roederer

December 31, 2024

December 31 on a calendar. iStock photo.

Once a month, I team up with a a therapist who is a dear colleague and friend, and together, we offer a Zoom program called, “Mindfulness Moments.” People join us on the screen, and from a comfortable position in their own homes, my colleague leads us in a mindfulness exercise. I facilitate some discussion afterward, but I treasure this time because I am doing less leading and more receiving. I love her thoughtfulness and wisdom; I love to practice mindfulness and meditation alongside her.

Last night, she asked us to imagine that it’s December 31, 2024. She invited us to create a meeting between our future selves and our present selves, both feeling gratitude for the other.

I want to extend this imagination to you today. And if you, too, would like to go to a quiet place to consider this, imagine the relationship between your current self and your end-of-the-year self. What do you want that to be like? There can be gratitude, because after all, your future self is an inspiration to where your present self wants be, but your future self didn’t get there with out the work and intention of your present self.

Imagine with us… It’s December 31, 2024.

Did you travel anywhere?

Did you gain some strength?

What hobby did you finally spend more time doing?

How much self care did you give to yourself?

What were your greatest achievements that you worked so hard to begin and now are major milestones in your life?

What did you learn?

Renee Roederer

I’m Getting a Front Row Seat to Baby Animals

I have a new friend, and he’s a substitute farmer. I have never considered this role, but it makes complete sense that this vocation would exist. Farmers need to step away from their land and daily grind just like anyone, but animals and crops need daily care.

This same friend has recently moved to a local farm as well. I’ve asked him a very important question:

Do you think you could help me meet a baby cow this year?

“Oh, without question,” he answered, to my glee. And friends, it’s going to be so much better than that. He went to the farmers where he lives and asked to be notified every time there’s a new baby animal because… I’m going to get to meet all of them.

2024 is going to be so cuuuute. And I’m going to have so many precious friennnds.
(I’ll share pictures, I promise)

Renee Roederer