A couple weeks ago, we initiated a series on attachment styles. If you missed the introductory post, you can go there, and then you can learn more about the core wounds of each insecure attachment style. From these, we can consider what our attachment styles are, as well as how these impact our internal feelings and relationships.
To recap a little, there are four primary attachment styles. There is the secure attachment style, and three insecure attachment styles — 1) anxious preoccupied, 2) fearful avoidant (also sometimes called disorganized or anxious-avoidant), and 3) dismissive avoidant. There is a great deal of psychological research around these, first championed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, and a lot of interest in recent years.
Attachment styles develop very early in life, though we can work to heal these patterns. From these patterns, we often build narratives around the scaffolding of our own fears, and they can cause friction in our relationships.
Today, I’ll invite us to learn again from Thais Gibson, a therapist who has done tremendous work in these areas. These videos are about protest behaviors. What are these? They care coping mechanisms, triggers, and behaviors we take to the manage closeness and space in relationships, particularly during times of stress and conflict.
Smuggling Grace 