— Photos by Renee Roederer
Neato Curiosities: Unraveling the Great Migration Mystery
The Joy of Buy Nothing Groups
Oh, these corroded pipes!
That’s not a phrase of some kind. That’s literally what’s taken place at my house over the last few weeks. I had some water come up from my basement drain, and the cause is… not good. A plumber has come over to my house twice, and sadly, we’ve discovered that there was a break somewhere, and a lot of dirt got in, which led to a major clog, which then corroded the pipes in my basement. It’s going to be a massive fix and of course, expensive. My plumber and his cadre of nephews are going to fix this this next weekend.
When it rains, it pours. That actually, is a phrase. I’ve figured out how to make this work, but I’m going to be a frugal gal this summer.
And that part, at least, leads to a joy I want to share with you.
Are you aware of Buy Nothing groups?
I’d love to not have to buy PVC pipes. But there are a lot of other things I haven’t bought lately. There are Facebook groups where people share things they are giving for free and things they’d like to receive for free. People match up and pick up things at each others’ houses. I’ve been giving away a number of items in my house lately because I’m downsizing a bit. And I’ve received, too. For instance,
In the wake of this situation, I shared that I now owned precisely one bath towel because I used all my towels to sop up the basement. As a result, today, I get to pick up bath towels, paper towels (because someone is offering those too) and an air popcorn popper, because someone is nice, and mine also died this week. Meanwhile, this week, I’ve given a speaker, frozen food, and a bunch of coffee mugs.
I love neighbors helping neighbors. This is the kind of world I want to live in. And though I’d also want to live in a parallel universe where I don’t have corroded pipes, this part of this story is pretty good.
— Renee Roederer
Little Indulgences
A couple times per week, I don’t set an alarm and just let myself wake up when my body wants to do that. And sure, that still means I often still wake up at 6:30 or 7:00am. But at least I didn’t interrupt my REM sleep.
Sometimes, I start my day by eating a small piece of chocolate, just to start the day with something sweet.
Sometimes — well, often — I sing out loud while I’m riding my bike.
How about you? What are some of your little indulgences?
— Renee Roederer
Inheritance by Tyree Daye
Inheritance by Tyree Daye
My mother will leave me her mother’s deep-black
cast-iron skillet someday,
I will fry okra in it,
weigh my whole life on its black handle,
lift it up to feel a people in my hand.
I will cook dinner
for my mother on her rusting,
bleached stove with this oiled star.
My mother made her body crooked
all her life to afford this little wooden blue house.
I want her green thumbs
wound around a squash’s neck
to be wound around my wrist
telling me to stay longer.
O what she grew with the dust
dancing in blue hours.
What will happen to her body
left in the ground, to the bodies in the street,
the uncles turned to ash on the fireplace mantles
the cousins we’ve misplaced?
How many people make up this wound?
No one taught my mother how to bring us back to life,
so no one taught me.
O what we gather and O Lord
bless what we pass on.
The Community is The End
Vignette 1:
Every year, I like to make a pilgrimage of sorts. I get myself to a Jacob Collier concert, which is always an experience like none other. This is not an opportunity to be a mere spectator, by the way. If you are in the audience of a Jacob Collier concert, you are also a performer — an integral part of the experience.
Here are two things I typically share with others when I mention what this experience is like:
— Jacob Collier is a person of near unbelievable talent. He plays at least five instruments during a given concert and masterfully. And he improvises brilliantly, especially on the piano and the harmonizer, an instrument he himself invented, which allows him to sing one note and play keys to create harmonized versions of his own voice. Basically, he is singing chords with himself.
— Despite this near unbelievable talent on display, there is no Jacob Collier concert without the audience. He is all about collaboration, and he can craft a collective, interactive musical experience with the audience that feels powerful, playful, and sacred. He is remarkably skilled in being a moment-maker.
And here’s what I noticed in the concert I attended this year:
He always ends with us. He always ends with the community.
We were the finale to the concert. After the long set was over, he concluded by making us into an audience choir. He makes eye contact with certain sections of people, gets them singing a note, and then adds the others. He gestures up or down, and we know what to do with our voices. Now we are singing chords with ourselves. How many audiences end up being a choir and the conclusion to the concert?
There were encores, of course. And in this instance, too, he always found a way to end with us. He put us on display each time, and this was a collective experience. As a remarkably talented person, collaboration and transformation matter most to him.
Vignette 2:
This past Saturday, I was driving to the Midland Stroll for Epilepsy, one of the annual events at the Epilepsy Foundation of Michigan. I was just about to pull into the location, when the short conclusion of the Beatles’ album Abbey Road started playing. It’s just two minutes long and is called “The End.”
It’s a jam. But the final words are reflective,
“And in the end… the love you take… is equal to the love you make.”
I thought, “Here, too, the community is the end.” My colleagues do all sorts of detailed planning to make the Stroll happen, and individuals and team captains organize themselves, raise money, make t-shirts, or get themselves ready to volunteer. And… it’s all leading to the community experience. It’s all leading to being together, celebrating one another, and casting a vision where all belong, are included, and empowered to be advocates. It’s all leading there.
And a word like ‘end,’ brings this home. Yes, it can be a conclusion. But ‘the end’ can also mean the goal or the purpose.
And so,
The community is the end, and
The end is community.
—Renee Roederer
Mental Health Monday: Flight Response
When I ride my bike, I take a particular pathway often where I am off the road and on a trail with grass on either side. This means that sometimes, I happen to startle a squirrel or chipmunk that was already in the grass.
And suddenly startled, these critters immediately begin to run, but… not away from me. They run precisely in my direction. Now I’m in a video game I’ve never wanted. Move over, Frogger. I am trying to dodge freaked out chipmunks.
I’ve never hit one, very thankfully.
But I’ve found myself reflecting on this. The flight response is a strong one. All mammals have it. And it’s strong enough that it can kick in without the wisdom of knowing precisely where and how we’re running. After all, it isn’t wise to run toward my wheels. But they’re in a particular response, and they will go where they will go.
And, of course, I think of humans too. We don’t always literally sprint away, but we have flight responses too. We can distract ourselves. We can overscroll on our phones. We can overwork. We can leave conversations. We can leave places. We can leave relationships.
And sometimes, we absolutely need to do these things. The flight response can be a good, instinctual response.
But we don’t want it to become maladaptive or so automatic that we run in the wrong direction. We just need to watch where we’re going.
— Renee Roederer
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Grace by Orlando Ricardo Menes
Grace by Orlando Ricardo Menes
We cannot buy it in bulk at Trader Joe’s,
Swap it for gold, or hoard shares of Grace, Inc.,
To hedge against bad luck. We acquire it
Without contract, promissory notes, or IOUs,
Neither codicils nor fine print. We gather
Grace safe from litigation or severance,
And though we might breach the strictures of creed,
It cannot be forfeited or suspended. Rather,
Grace is asymmetric, parabolic, skewed to love,
Immanent and absolute, but also unpredictable
As quantum particles, both here and there,
Both full and empty, so it might arrive
Inopportunely and thus slip under hope,
Upsetting the earnest prayer, teasing our faith,
Like some rain bands, copious cumuli,
That appear astray, unbidden, in stagnant skies
To drench at last the drought-scourged earth
Smuggling Grace 