Have you thought about that recently? It might be helpful to bring such stories to mind – to recall those chapters and moments when we endured stress, challenge, trauma, and loss and bounced back, perhaps even unexpectedly, into renewed life.
When we were empowered to keep going. . .
When we gained grit and resolve. . .
When we experienced resurrection, despite the pain we have known. . .
When we gained insight we cannot lose. . .
Resilency is often totally unexpected, but it happens around us and through us all the time. Certainly, none these forms of growth transform trauma into a collective good. Far from it. But there are times when resiliency accompanies even our greatest pain and brings us through despite what we might have anticipated.
We are living in a time of collective stress and fear. As I talk with people, many saying that they are feeling despair and dread. If that’s where we are, I encourage us to honor those feelings.
And beyond feelings, some are facing tangible concerns and threats. We need to take these seriously and create protective strategies in our communities.
We will be even more empowered to do so if we can remember resiliency. What is your resilience story? Can you call it to mind?
In some ancient languages, the word ‘remember’ does not simply mean that we recall something from the past. It means that we make it present.
Mental health experts tell us that people tend to gain healing from stress, challenge, trauma, and loss when they can put their experiences into a personal narrative. Can you take some time today to tell your resilience story to yourself? Can you put its power into your body, mind, and spirit?
And one of the best strategies for gaining resiliency is to connect with good and trusted relationships of support and care. Have you told anyone your resilience story lately? There is great power in sharing such stories with one another.
Consider doing that. Tell someone. And wherever you are and however you’re feeling, let this story be a gift that guides you.