Kinship: “We share the same soul”

Jia and Zuri say they are twins. In fact, they tell everyone. They are four years old and go to the same preschool. They are remarkably close and sometimes assert their unique relationship by choosing to wear matching clothes.

Jia is white, and Zuri is black.

When folks ask them what makes people twins, the girls say, “Similarities.” They talk about how they are more than just sisters — certainly more than best friends. Their birthdays are close together, and they are the same height. They like the same things.

Recently, at a birthday party, another child told them they can’t be twins because of their different skin colors. Jia began to cry, but then, she responded with this statement: “We’re twins because we share the same soul.”

This is so beautiful.

It may also feel precarious. It is easy to wonder how society might deny these girls their connection, and worse, over time, treat them differently based on race.

But they demonstrate a deep connection that sustains them. They assert a vision for that connection with familial language. Why do we insist that things must be literally true, when they are in fact truer than true?

This is Kinship.

These two share one soul. I wonder what we could learn from them.

Renee Roederer

This post is part of a series this week. Feel free to check out the other pieces as well:

Kinship: Open Wide the Circle
Kinship: The Myriad of Entry Points
Kinship: Our Language for Family is Too Limited

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